Celebrating Fatherhood: The essential pillar of Islamic family values
By Muhammad Isyaku Malumfashi
The importance of fathers in raising and nurturing children is profoundly emphasised in Islamic teachings. Yet, in contemporary times, there seems to be a prevailing tendency among some to overlook fathers’ significant contributions and role in their children’s lives, often overshadowed by the accolades bestowed upon mothers. This imbalance warrants a closer examination and a reaffirmation of fathers’ vital position within the Islamic family framework.
Within the teachings of the Quran, the holy book of Islam, and the authentic Hadiths of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), numerous references underscore the pivotal role of fathers in their children’s lives. One such verse from the Quran states: “And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination” (Quran 31:14).
This verse encapsulates the essence of filial duty toward both parents, highlighting the unique sacrifice and nurturing provided by the mother during pregnancy and infancy, yet equally emphasising the obligation to express gratitude and care towards both parents. The Hadiths further elucidate this principle, with Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) emphasising the importance of honouring and respecting fathers alongside mothers.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) is reported to have said, “He is not one of us who does not have mercy upon our young ones and does not honour our elders.” This profound statement encapsulates Islam’s holistic approach to familial relationships, emphasising compassion and respect for all members, including fathers.
Furthermore, the Quran emphasises the importance of maintaining kinship ties, which inherently include honouring and supporting one’s parents, including fathers. Surah Al-Isra, verse 23, states: “And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], ‘uff,’ and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.”
This verse underscores the obligation to treat both parents with kindness and respect, regardless of their circumstances. It highlights the significant role fathers play in the family dynamic. It admonishes any disrespect or neglect toward parents, emphasising the importance of maintaining a dignified and compassionate attitude toward them.
In light of these Islamic teachings, it becomes evident that the role of fathers is not to be understated or overlooked. Fathers serve as the bedrock of the family structure, providing guidance, support, and protection to their children. They instil values, morals, and principles that shape the character and identity of their offspring.
Moreover, fathers serve as role models for their children, imparting invaluable lessons through actions and words. They offer strength, stability, and wisdom, providing inspiration and guidance for their children to emulate.
In today’s rapidly changing society, where the traditional roles and dynamics within families are evolving, it is imperative to reaffirm the importance of fathers in the upbringing and development of children. Children should be encouraged to recognise and appreciate the sacrifices and contributions made by their fathers, alongside their mothers, towards their well-being and upbringing.
It is essential to foster a culture of respect, gratitude, and support towards fathers, recognising their integral role in shaping the future generations of Muslims. By upholding the teachings of Islam regarding familial relationships and honouring both parents, we can strengthen the fabric of our families and communities, ensuring harmony, stability, and prosperity for generations to come.
In conclusion, fathers hold a sacred and irreplaceable position within the Islamic family framework. Their role in raising and nurturing children is indispensable, as emphasised by the Quranic verses and authentic Hadiths of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). Therefore, it is incumbent upon us to acknowledge, appreciate, and support fathers in their noble endeavour of raising righteous and virtuous children, for they are indeed the cornerstone of every family.
Muhammad Isyaku Malumfashi with the Ramadan dose.