By Sadam Abubakar
We all know and believe that marriages are associated with numerous cultures. These cultures come together to add flavour to the unforgettable memories that would be created in the minds of the brides and grooms during so many events of marriage celebrations.
The indelible joys and memories of marriage ceremonies usually transcend to even the minds of parents, friends, and relatives of both the brides and grooms. So, the importance of all the events associated with marriage ceremonies cannot be overemphasised in many cultures.
However, adopting the so-called Western civilisation has marred many events associated with marriage ceremonies, especially in the Northern-Muslim societies of Nigeria.
For instance, not more than a decade ago, the bride’s popular “Kamu” or “Sa lalle” usually took place in a sister’s house to the bride’s mother. And the people that would be in attendance at this event will comprise only the closest friends of the bride and some of her few female acquaintances.
Unfortunately, today, such events usually take place in outside rented event centres where the groom and his friends could be in attendance too. Not only that, it’s possible for a dance competition between the groom and bride, or between the groom’s friends and the bride’s friends during this historically decent event.
The most moving part is that it’s now a normal and unpreventable trend in so many events associated with marriage ceremonies that the brides must appear almost half-naked. So instead of the decent “riga da zani of Atamfa“, the bride will wear a Western wedding gown.
Even if the dresses are tailored locally, they will not only be diaphanous that one can see through, they are ensured to be tight enough to reveal all the contours and bumps in the bride’s body. And it’s in this kind of dress that the dancing will take place. So common. Are we really in our senses?
Remember, I insinuated earlier that parents usually attend these kinds of events. Can’t they stop it? Is it now normal for them too? I am sure our forefathers are not like this. And they didn’t train their children to be like this. Why only us?
May ALLAH guide us right, amin.
Sadam Abubakar can be contacted via sadamabubakarsoba@gmail.com.
Really you have made a crucial research on your article, and you have clearly stated the menace bedeviling the Hausa land especially during the wedding occasion in which Hausas abandoned their olden days of weddin ceremony by adopting the western ways of doing things not only on wedding matters even our day-day activities, Which is totally wrong and we are seing it as civilisation, where is civilisation by exposing your privacy? This is a western mentally conquest all this happen as a result of negligence of our parents, our traditional rulers our norms and values were left behind. Measures must to be taken from the parents, traditional rulers our norms and value must to be revive and our religious leaders must have the role to be played this the only way can bring the solution to our forthcoming generation may almighty God save the Hausa Land.
So sympathetic, the norms and values were abandoned.
God bless you bro
A very insightful view, May we be guided
As a popular Hausa adage says ‘ kayan aro baya rufe katara’. You’ve said it all. We borrow many things from western ideology which we don’t even know the meaning and applied it which isn’t proper. May Allah see us through. Amin