By Emurence Imran Nata’alah
This is not a promotion of feminism, but it has become part of our people to meddle in what does not concern them, which is uncool in Islam: “Part of the perfection of someone’s Islam is leaving alone that which does not concern them.”
A woman passes through different positive and negative phases: People will define her life, plan her life, and monitor and count every move she makes.
Know this: The most annoying thing about these people who plan a woman’s life is that they aren’t family; they barely know a thing about her but are eager to say one or two negative things about her. I meant something like: What is her biggest sin, whom she sins with, how did she sin the alleged sin, and how did she react to the stupid allegations?
A woman must be super strong, for what will come is bigger and mightier than seen in movies like “Iron Lady” and all of Its sorts. People are mean, especially to women trying to be successful without going astray or becoming a negative example to the younger ones.
This does not mean people generally hate successful women out there, but in reality, people hate success. Even men face stuff like these, but it’s more prevalent when it’s a lady in the picture.
A woman should not let people know her weaknesses because If she cries out because of the negativity, they would call her a witch, and if a woman smiles, they would say it’s too much — she has no class.
If a woman frowns, she would be called ungrateful; she has forgotten all the blessings bestowed upon her, and if she isolates herself because of the negativity by keeping her head up—they would ask questions like: “Why are you isolating yourself?” “Are you depressed?”
When a woman minds her business and interacts with others, they would say she’s bragging. While she’s waiting for the right spouse—which is the most common thing in our part of the world; they suddenly become curious and considerate—people would accuse her of liking material things and not having a sound mindset.
The moment things start falling in place and a woman keeps her head up, BOOM! They would still say she’s too old, and no one will want her or suit her.
When she starts concentrating on profits in her business, people say she’s fornicating or selling her body for money and hurl many more negative comments just to hurt her. These people believe she can’t succeed in her small business without venturing into part-time prostitution.
When a woman finally gets a spouse, these people would say, “She’s married to a poor man. Is that all that she got after all the pride and ego?” Only a few will pray for you, honestly. All you need to know is do and don’t do this; happiness will be by your side.
When a woman’s life is going perfectly or something close to perfect, her husband is caring, and serenity becomes her friend, they would still manage to say she charmed her spouse. They would call him wife, and she’s the husband. According to their perspectives, a woman can’t be loved wholeheartedly, romantically, without charming her spouse.
They say, “A real man should be brave and act like a king in his house.” So, how does acting as a king correlate with an inferiority complex? I don’t know if there’s a correlation between being an Alpha and being foolish because an Alpha would never stoop this low because of an inferiority complex in the name of being an Alpha. Anyway, it’s a story for another day.
A woman is a lady with an entrepreneurial mind. She’s a lady who wants freedom and needs to be pampered as always like it’s always been before an inferiority complex came into existence.
Give women freedom. Don’t marry them and cage them for your selfish reasons. If you don’t want a successful or career woman, please go for something within your reality and spare these for those who live In the same way.
I know some of you would be in awe of how I came up with these negative stories, while there are many positive stories about women treated as Queens, that they are.
Okay. Hear me out. The number of marriages that crashed due to the inferiority complex isn’t something we should write about; the resulting negative treatment of spouses due to the inferiority complex isn’t something close to being friendly.
Despite all these phases, some women fought through and are living happily ever after, but then, we have to let the younger ones prepare for what is about to come because society has a bigger influence in their lives.
I’m saying that a woman shouldn’t be deprived of her rights and chances of making things right. She needs to be corrected in a romantic and caring way. She has imperfections in her nature. She shouldn’t be a target of suspicious actions.
Give her a chance, consult her and make her bloom. It’s not that hard.
| Emurence Imran Nata’alah wrote via emurenceimran@gmail.com. |